February or March of this year I took on a second job working weekends for a catering company as a way to helpt get our family's debtsnowball rolling. And I will admit to that extra job along with hubby's quite a few extra DJ jobs has really helped in that area to the point that we are left with only $3500 on our second mortage and $3900 on my jeep. Both loans have just about 10 payments left on each. We are very pleased with our progress however that's not where my dilemma lies.
I have really enjoyed working for the caterer. It's been mostly fun, the people are very nice and like I said it's been quite profitable in terms of eliminating our debts, however most recently I have been getting more and more responsibility heaped on my plate...what I mean by that is that I am put in the position of being 1st or second lead which means that I am basically accountable for the job. Now some people might think that's very cool but for me honestly it's not. I don't enjoy the stress especially since I am walking in the door Saturday morning not really knowing a thing about the job I am working on and then I am expected to quote/unquote run some level of the job. I have a full time job and when I started working there that wasn't something I signed on for. I basically wanted to come in, do what I was told and work the job, get paid and go home.
These last 2 times that I have been in that position of authority I haven't really enjoyed my job and as horrible as this might sound I seriously don't believe the money I am making for that level of responsibility is comenserate. The one job I worked 15 hours, had a mother of the bride that was more than a little difficult to deal with and lost my chef due to a rather heated arguement between he and the above mentioned mother. So that left me flying solo trying to do a job up until that point I had never done on my own before.
Well I am again going to be in that positon this Saturday and I am already dreading it. To the point that I am considering giving them my resignation once this job is completed, but I am torn because our goal of paying off those last 2 debts hasn't been met yet and the money I do make could be put toward that goal. However I so don't want to be in charge no matter how capable the caterer believes me to be, I just don't want the stress and responsibility.
I am thinking about composing a letter explaining myself and thanking them for their confidence in my abilities but tell that I don't feel comfortable in that type of position and that I would perfer going back to being just part of the crew and if that can't happen then I would have to resign. Am I being ridiculous? I honestly don't think I am since if I wanted to sign on with a caterer working full time in that sort of position I would have jumped at the offer the first time to owner of the company made it to me. So I guess I feel like even though he knows how I feel he's attempting to get what he wants anyhow.
I would like your thoughts and possible suggestions on this. Thanks.
Tuesday, September 18, 2007
Dilemma
Posted by Mama of 2 at 6:23 PM
Labels: Dave Ramsey, Job Life
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Go with your gut. If it's teling you it's time for bye-bye, then bye-bye it is. You have a great full time job now, you'll be fine. and less streesed, and who doesn't want to be less stressed??? Let us know how it worked out.
Hi! Long time no read - you're making awesome progress!!!! I would say on the one hand, there are plenty of part time jobs you can get that probably pay the same and have less responsibility but on the other hand, you've already been working this job and you know it's not forever! It's only temporary until you can kick the debt to the curb! So your choice boils down to - do you stay with what you know, tough it out and get it over with? Or do you look for something else and lose a pay day or two while you look around for something else? With the holidays just around the corner, looking and finding something else may work to your advantage! Good luck with whatever you decide!!
Can't you just talk to your boss and tell him how you feel? If you are intimidated by the idea of confronting him, a letter does sound like a good idea, but you should definitely let him know before Saturday.
Speak up in person, write it all down so you don't miss any important points. If you don't want to be the boss, then say so!!!
If you're willing to go along and take charge, then the boss can stay home on Saturday and watch cartoons knowing you'll take care of things for him, for less money than it costs him/her to go in and do the job. Phooey on that.
If you want to just be part of the crew, do the job, get paid and leave, say so.
If you just fell into being the boss because of your magnetic-take-charge-personality and ability to see what needs to be done and get it done, then why now are you having a problem standing up for yourself?
Why write a letter? Just stand up and say it in person!
Grow some gonads babe, you have a boy going to be a man really really soon, and if you can't stand up to the mother of the bride and you lose the chef, how are you going to stand up when the mother of HIS bride demands that you wear a purple moomoo and a tiara to the wedding? Write her a letter? Yabetcha!!
Good luck!!!
This is one of those moments where you need to ask yourself, "What would Dave Ramsey tell me to do in this situation?"
Stick it out... bust your butt to get those last two debts knocked out, and you'll be sitting debt-free in a few short months, wondering why you ever complained about this part-time gig?
If it is causing you that much stress, though... replace it with a different part-time job. Simple as that. Just don't quit working part-time altogether.
You are getting some mixed opinions here. Really it is up to you. Do you have a enough time to politely explain to the boss that for you, it is not worth the stress of being in charge before Saturday. If you think you do, then do it, if that is what makes you happy.
If you don't have time, then you will need to meet your commitments, but be sure to explain to him that the stess just isn't worth it for you or your family. 15 hours is way too much time to be away from family.
You need to do what will keep you happy.
If your boss insists on using you in a lead position against your will, you have the right to resign.
REMEMBER, YOU NEED TO DO WHAT WILL KEEP YOU AND YOUR FAMILY HAPPY AND FUNCTIONING WELL. If you are bringing home stress from a long day with fiesty people, it will only bring your family down. Your well-being and theirs should top your priority list.
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