...reserved for romance novels only?
I have been trying to come up with an answer to that question for a while now. I guess if I am honest with myself I will have to admit that I have always had a fascination with those novels where the bad guy, misunderstood, with a good heart swooped in and took care of the woman. That somehow they had a connection that was undiscribable but it was a pull like the moon had on tides.
You know it's the kind of romance that the guy would put the woman above everyone and everything including himself. That he made her feel safe and protected. Okay as you can tell I am stuck in some sappy romance novel mystic at the moment. Maybe I am even wollowing in it.
As much as I love my husband....I don't have that white knight. In fact I feel like I am always the one doing all the taking care of everyone and everything. It's beginning to wear thin on me lately -- perhaps it's because I am stuck in Twilight mania....and yes I am questioning my own sanity when I find a vampire sexy...well not really I seem to have a thing for vamps and men in the mafia -- you know again the mafia prince with the heart of gold. Are you sensing a trend yet? Other than that you are thinking I am nuts! LOL!
But seriously am I the only one who thinks it would be nice to be taken care of rather than always being looked at as the one that does the taking care of? I am not doubting that my husband loves me 'cause that is so not the case. But what the problem is that I feel like even after 3 years of dating and 12 years of marriage (15 total) that he doesn't really know me. Cause if he did he would know that's what I need -- what I crave -- what I want.
I write fiction stories with always the same themes.....those darned white knights. That's not to say that I don't write strong women as well, but I still think that a woman wants and needs to be taken care of -- without having to ask for that.
I have been in a pretty deep funk lately and I don't know if my feelings about this are contributing to my funk or if they are at the source of it. So I guess I am just expressing my own weirdness here...where I can.
Friday, December 12, 2008
Is there such a thing as a WHITE KNIGHT or is chivalry...
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Interesting thoughts today. I don't think women are weak for wanting (needing, desiring) to be taken care of. I have one that doesn't want to be a caregiver. He thinks I'll be weakened if I have him to turn to. But then when I need him, he's right there. If he's sick, he gets snippy if I want to try to care for him.
We all have wants needs and desires. It's nice once in a while to hear someone else say what I think too... thank you.
The only thing you might want to be careful of is getting caught up in the idea that real life could ever be like a novel (or a movie). I think that in the same way that young women have insecurities about their bodies due to the media glamourizing anorexic models, some people get hung up on finding that "perfect" romance that they have read in a book or seen on the screen. And its not real, so it can't happen. And that leaves alot of people miserable and searching.
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